What the wedding is really about

I already mentioned last week that today I would be writing about what the wedding is really about for us.

The wedding industry is a huge thing and I would be lying if I said I did not love it. I do love it. I planned most of my friends’ weddings or if I did not plan it, I was involved somehow. I have been reading wedding blogs for over ten years and have followed trends and photographers and all. I love weddings.

When we got engaged, I was so excited to plan the wedding of my dreams and put into action all those things I always wanted. I had my Pinterest boards ready, my mood board ready and my checklist and timeline laid out. I even found my dress just in time. 

At the same time, I made it a point to never become bridezilla and we made it a point to not be caught up in the wedding planning as to forget to plan for married life. That was always the main thing – the thing the wedding is really about.

Then Covid-19 happened and the wedding industry changed. Posts and YouTube videos were all about how to cancel or how to make it work and it was emotional. I have friends who work in the industry and it was tough on them.

This whole thing though brought us back to basics and really helped us to keep the main thing the main thing.

What the wedding is really about

The process of planning brought us back to keeping it simple. This wedding is not about the flowers, the party, the music or the food. This wedding is about the two of us deciding to become one, to cut a covenant and declare this before God and others.

It brought us back to emphasizing on conversations about our future life, conversations about the family culture we want to have, the home we want to build and how we want to deal with conflict. We talked about finances, the future and expectations. We have been in premarital counseling a few months now and we loved it so much. It was so helpful to prepare not for the wedding but for our life together.

I do understand why many people canceled but all of the above was reason for us not to cancel. We knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and come into a covenant relationship with each other. The celebration is important, don’t get me wrong and I love flowers and setting an atmosphere where people love to be in. We just really worked hard on keeping our focus clear and obvious and not get caught up in the minutiae of decorations or cutlery or linens. 

By no means am I diminishing all of those things. They are important and they are a part of what makes a wedding. I just want to challenge our thinking and bring it back to two individual no longer being two but becoming one together and is that not the most beautiful thing in the world, the most romantic, challenging and amazing thing? 

I really cannot wait, friends. One more week and everything will be new.

Much love

Ramona