You know how they say you have to be the right person before you find the right person. Well, but how do I know that I am the right person? How do I become the right person?
If you read my blog from last week, you know that my dating history is well… rocky and connected to a lot of heartache. Very obviously, I have not been the right person very many times.
I know I talked about healing from unrequited love already last week but here is another thing I did after yet another almost romance ended. I evolved and I changed taking one step further to becoming who I am meant to be. I also learned through that process that being single is ok. I am a full person. There is a whole world to see, people to encourage and I am not willing to miss out on anything just because some guy didn’t like me.
Maybe you are like me and you wonder what does it even mean to be the right person? In all honesty, I do not know when you are the right person or when you know you are the right person. However, I will share with you what I believe it means to become the right person.
Be the right person
I read a quote the other day by Stasi Eldredge that said,
“He made you you – on purpose. You are the only you – ever. Becoming ourselves means we are actively cooperating with God’s intention for our lives, not fighting him or ourselves.”
- Who are you? What is unique about you? What are your gifts? Your passion? Find out about that and pursue them. Your passion will always be connected to your calling and your calling will always influence other people. I have a very special blog planned for you about finding your passion. It is coming soon.
- Who is with you? With what people do you surround yourself? That says a lot about you and I believe that we should really invest into good friendships that both challenge and encourage us. The kind of people who push you up the mountain and walk it all the way with you. Think Frodo and Sam (sorry for the quick slightly nerdy interruption). My favorite quote probably from all of “The Lord of the Rings” is “Come, Mr. Frodo!’ he cried. ‘I can’t carry it for you, but I can carry you.” You want those kind of friends in your life. The will help you be the right person.
- You will be the right person if you stop complaining about your life and if you stop being jealous of that one girl who did get the date, the boyfriend, the job… you name it. Be thankful. Look beyond your own plate and start investing into other people. Be a leader and a mentor to somebody else. Work on being a really good friend and start by listening instead of talking.
I know there is quite a few challenging thoughts in there but I still hope to encourage you today and this beautiful Friday. You have what it takes. You are beautiful and lovely and you can be the right person for somebody. It’s just like everything in life.
We are all in the process of becoming!